EBOOK READ (Eat Pray Love) ò Elizabeth Gilbert
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book about how HE was the one making the divorce so difficult I don t mean to sound judgmental of how she coped with it because I can t relate to that and it would be unfair of me but I just couldn t help but feel that she kind of bashed the ex a little when she was seemingly the majority of the reason for their split Plus she acted like she is the only person in the world to suffer through a divorce Bio Mechanical Irons and Works yet she was totally in love with another man less than a month after she realized she wanted out of her marriage and her account isn t clear as to how long after her realization she actually got the divorce ball rolling so I can t help but assume she was unfaithul So it was hard to have sympathy for her when she got hysterical over the ex disagreeing about settlement details Um I would think that happens whenou blindside One Small Secret your spouse with a divorce reuest Not saying it s right just saying that s lifeSecondly in her search of spirituality I couldn t help but find some of it a little far fetched And could she have drawn out her stay at the Ashram in India any longer or with mind numbing snooooze inducing detail I found myself skipping entire paragraphs at a time and not just because I was in a bit of a hurry to read the book before book club but because she bored the hell out of me My favorite part of India ironically was Richard From Texas So I suppose that just sums up for us what I got out of the India sectionBut I won t leave us all on a totally negative note I enjoyed parts of the book some of them thoroughly I loved her friends for instance and am perplexed at how I find the author so unlikable but somehow she has such cool people in her life And she was SOMETIMES funny with little sarcastic bits that caught me off guard and made me laugh aloud When she wasn t being overly wordy I loved reading her descriptions of Italy India and most especially Indonesia And of course who didn t drool over her description of that pizza in Naples YUM I read that part twice What I m about to say must be wrong because I couldn t get through this book I tried And I failed So I have NO BUSINESS WRITING THIS Don t read itA cousin recommended EPL and I thought it would teach me something about the book market My secret boyfriend at the public library was horrified I checked it out given his ACLU offensive intimacy with my record and tastes andes like others I was embarrassed to have EPL in my possessionBecauseWhat IS this MOVEMENT of lily white bourgeois women with fancy educations working themselves into identity crises that they think can be solved by a new form of coloniasm This hyper feminized adventure travel Subaltern poaching for the 21st century Taker mentality as spiritual uestThese people need their own version of Outside magazine or some shit Oh My Country The Remarkable Past yeah they already do It s called the GAIAM catalogYeah We re talking some serious dilettante tourism taking entire countries as theme spas Italy for excess India for asceticism Indonesia for the middle path Ladies Country I is notour personal terrain for self discovery You don t get to interiorize Country I as a metaphor for Haunted Tales of the Unexplained your personal potential Ifour interior journey needs a bunch of leisure time and poor countries to be realized maybe ou re asking the wrong uestionsThe consumerist mentality was so self important and so priveleged that I just couldn t make myself give this book any time Shallow self indulgent and mired in the sort of liberal American obsession with oriental exoticism that is uniuely offensive because it is treated as enobling by its purveyors She treats the rest of the world as though it exists for the consumption of jaded rich white Americans and this book is a monument to that sort of arrogance and ignorance I found this book unbelievably phoneyI hated this so much that I got up early this morning to finish it and gave my copy to the library and honestly I m not too proud of thatTo me it just felt so insincere that there s no chance I would have made it past the second chapter it been for book club obligationsI enjoyed her writing style "But I Absolutely Could "I could warm to her all To be fair I do think she wo This was one of those books I will read over and over again All those cynics out there who criticize Gilbert for writing a too cutesy memoir that seems beyond belief and who claim that she is selfish for leaving her responsibility are clearly missing the point First she did not write the book to inspire ou She wrote it as her own memoir A Radical Approach to the Akashic Records: Master Your Life and Raise Your Vibration you can agree or disagree with how she went about her enlightenment butou cannot judge her for how she found happiness It is her memoir not Death March The Zone yours You can achieve enlightement by whatever meansou want Second to call her irresponsible for leaving responsibilities behind is absurd She was in an unhappy marriage You cannot force The Asian-African Conference, Bandung, Indonesia, April 1955 yourself to be happy I applaud her for doing something that many people are afraid to do She had no children and so the responsibilities she neglected were minimal I also suspect that those ofou who didn t enjoy the book could not relate to it You have never suffered a life changing tragedy You have never felt paralyzed by fear anger or disappointment You have never had to go through a healing process that seems endless You have never felt lost That s great for Wie man eyn teutsches Mannsbild bey Kräfften hält you but unfortunately that makes it hard forou to relate to this memoir Finally those of Tomorrow Will Be a Good Day: My Autobiography you who found her story too unbelievable have probably never felt the joy of traveling the world There is no better way to discoverourself than getting out of Representation Cultural Representations and Signifying Practices Culture Media and Identities Series your comfort zone and immersingourself in someone else s Traveling the world is not self indulgent If doing what we want to or enjoy doing is self indulgent then we are all guilty If Five fags a day you are enjoying an ice cream sundae meetingour friends for a night out or a good work out Wicked Affairs p 2 you are being self indulgent My guess is that those ofou who didn t find the value in this book are unhappy with Jane of Gowlands your own life Perhapsou should be a little self indulgent The Piper in the Wind yourself I am embarrassed to read this book in public The title and the flowery pasta cover screams I m a book that contains the relentless rants of a neurotic 34 The Proposal year old womanSo I m afraid that the strangers on the Metro will think I identify with herBut in the comfort of my own bed I am totally falling for this memoir Yes Gilbert is emotionally self indulgent are we supposed to feel bad that she lost both houses in the divorce annoying she s just tickled when she gains 23 pounds after eating her way through Italy and often really immature oh The endless endless cryingThen again this is a memoir and when the writing is just so clever so hospitable so damn funny it s really hard to hold that against Gilbert in the endThe plot goes something like this A 30ear old writer has everything she wants including several successful books a husband and two houses When she realizes she doesn t want to have kids and that she s not happy after all she has a breakdown and leaves her husband In the process she realizes she has no identity Boo hooBut instead Gilbert decides to pack up and visit Italy India and Indonesia three places she hopes will ultimately bring her the inner balance she s been longing for And on the surface this book is a really entertaining travel essay Gilbert has this wonderfully uirky way of describing everything A piece of pizza a gelato And the people It s on her travels that I start to identify with Gilbert When I was 21 I spent four months traveling in Australia Just like Gilbert during her first weeks in Italy I was totally elated by my freedom But about two weeks in the loneliness came around and so did the anxiety My typical day started with this inner monologue I have to get to the museum before noon so I can fit in the sea kayaking trip at 2 And then I have to rush to the grocery store to get food to make dinner in the stinking hostel kitchen because god forbid I go out to eat causeIHAVETOMAKETHEMONEYLASTFORTHREEMOREMONTHSYikes How I envied the Eurotrash who could just sit by the hostel pool and read all day But if I didn t do everything then I would have failed at traveling In retrospect Australia was a turning point in my Prey young life I had no idea that this go go go attitude was how I had been living forears No wonder people thought I was uptight Relaxing had never come easy to me and it never will but I m getting a lot better at letting go and not worrying about seeing every last museum so to speakGilbert ruminates on this topic uite a bit in her book Her first moment. A celebrated writer's irresistible candid and elouent account of her pursuit of worldly pleasure spiritual devotion and what she really wanted out of life Around the time Elizabeth Gilbert turned thirty she went through an early onslaught midlife crisis She had everything an educated ambitious American woman was supposed to want a husband a house a successful career But instead of feeling happy and fulfilled she was consumed with panic grief and confusion She went through a divorce a crushing depression another failed love and the eradication of everything she ever thought she was supposed to be To recover from all thi. T just a little too proud of herself I grew so tired of her boasting about how all her decisions led to a higher plan of consciousness and a new appreciation for life and a new understanding of the universe at large And Bali was even worse I was hoping the little old guy didn t remember her Didn t that whole episode just turn out a little too cutely And then she fell off her bike She met her doctor friend and bought her a house And met an old guy and then she did things to herself And then she slept with the old guy And of course she s better at that than any of us because she is now enlightened And then she made a little rhyming couplet of a life in Australia America Bali and Brazil Double cringeItaly The author s angst and shallow self discovery and pretend real people met with the express purpose of reflecting what she would like to learn lessons that most of us will have learned far earlier in life before interesting lessons presented themselves To uote a phrase from the Italy section of this book cross the street if Addicted to Womanhood Book One you dare to even glance in a bookstore window and entertain a thought of buying this book Elizabeth Gilbert has no ideas about life Not only does she have nothing to teach she has nothing to say This book is so vicarious that it reveals a profound and deeply disturbing ignorance about the complexities of real life The author s observations about life are simplistic and her insights so embarrassingly undeveloped and unsophisticated that she comes across as a detached observer There are very few passages in this book that reveal any real sense of transformation in her life She never really seems to glean anything authentic or deeply affecting from any of her experiences And because she has gained nothing she has nothing to offer The reader is frustrated and unable to connect with her on any level This memoir not only lacks readability it lacks any real humanity She is right when she says that she is not a traveler she does not have the heart or spirit of a true traveler because she somehow remains deeply unaffected She is merely a tourist a spectator barely scratching the surface of the lands she traverses the people she encounters and the experiences of what it means to be human She fails to see the poverty that surrounds her or maybe she sees it She definitely never writes about it maybe because it is not part of the road to any enlightenmentIn spite of herear long journey she is still unable to gain true insight or wisdom from her pain and struggles There is no profoundness in her journey whether it is personal or physical This book is just a simple walk through a simple mind She is not even a good enough writer to be able to cleverly disguise her childlike observations in beautifully crafted language I would rather read the trail journals of a Batman: Arkham Asylum - A Serious House on Serious Earth young backpacker any day At least they are real After reading the book I wondered how it found its way to the bestseller list I was perplexed by its popularity So I did some research As it turns out Eat Pray Love is an ideal industry example of how a publishing company can create a best seller from the printing of a trade paperback In hard cover this book only generated mediocre book sales in theear in was published However someone at Penguin adopted it as a darling and created a hard core campaign to sell the trade paperbackWell when they said here s 200 000 dollars Elizabeth now go travel and don t forget to eat pray and love when Once is Never Enough you come back I will getou the best editor and we will both feel enlightened So shallow I cringe I cringe even for the women that buy into such shallownessIf Successful Employee Communications you really want to live with intention liveour journey here and now YOUR here and nowThis book gets Zero stars Wow this book took me on a roller coaster ride I couldn t decide if I loved it or hated it and it seemed like every few pages I d go from thinking Gilbert was delightfully witty to thinking this was the most horribly self absorbed person to ever set foot on the earth In the end the overall effect was rather like sitting at a party listening to someone tell a long involved story all about themselves and ou re alternately annoyed and fascinated and ou want to get up and leave but she s just so entertaining that My Life with Princess Margaret you keep tellingourself Un amor fora ciutat you ll leave in the next minute and soou end up sticking through the whole thing WARNING LOOONG REVIEW AHEAD I didn t hate Eat Pray Love but it left me really unsatisfied When I first started reading the book I couldn t help rolling my eyes and thinking Here we go another tale of a precious privileged woman who is unsatisfied with her life I stuck with it though and was charmed through the Italy section by Gilbert s humor and down to earth writing style Still for a woman who abandons everything in search of a true spiritual experience she leaves most of the important uestions unanswered I felt that Gilbert projects herself so strongly onto every place and every person she encounters that I m not sure what she really
Learnt Along The WayAs Delightful along the wayAs delightful the Italy section was to read I felt like she never really stepped out of herself to understand the country on its own terms and to move beyond the stereotype Despite it being a bit of a superficial assessment I have no problem with Gilbert associating Italy with pleasure There is enough beauty there to warrant itIt was her interpretation of what it means to open oneself to pleasure that bothered me and seemed very narrow For Gilbert this consisted mostly of "overindulging in foods and allowing herself to put on weight It "in foods and allowing herself to put on
weight It like she came to Italy thinking she already knew how to It like she came to Italy thinking she already knew how to pleasure and proceeded to enact it based on her definition even though there are indications that the Italian interpretation of pleasure is not merely restricted to this I would have liked to see her explore what it meant to devote herself to pleasure just as seriously and reverently as she seemed to take the meditative experiences in India Overall though my biggest problem with this book was I had difficulty at times believing Gilbert achieved the enlightenment she talks about because she is so internally focused Most importantly I still have not really grasped why it was necessary for her to travel to these 3 places I understand that her intention was not for this book to be a travelogue but it begs the uestion Why was it necessary to go to Italy India and Indonesia if the purpose was to not to gain something from them that could not be found elsewhere In every country Gilbert created a little security blanket of expat friends who seemed to cushion her from really understanding the lessons the countries had to offer on their own terms Why go to India to meet Richard the big Texan Guru for example Why not just go to Texas For those of us with eyelids only half caked with dirt but who can t uproot our lives and travel to countries of our choosing is enlightenment still an option I wanted Gilbert to talk about how anyone with an ordinary life but who is searching for insight could still balance spiritual Blue Murder yearning with duty And that s my final peeve about this book I wondered if Gilbert had any sense of duty or sense of obligation to anything beyond herself Gilbert seems to recognize the bonds of duty that restrict the locals she encounters Yet she somehow paints them as pleasurable or inevitableokes for the people who bear them Her detached observations of life and death rituals in India and Indonesia as though they are restricted to those parts of the world made me want to shake her and say but there are rituals everywhere Pilgrimage in Medieval Scotland: (Historic Scotland Series) you have made a conscious decision to removeourself from the ones ou know I ask about duty not because I wanted Gilbert to stay in a loveless marriage but because the concept of duty is also linked to a concept of justice What is it that we ought to do What do we owe each other Part of me felt that Gilbert took comfort in the non dual aspects of Eastern philisophies in a strange way She seemed almost relieved that the non duality of existence would ensure that one would not necessarily be punished by the universe for selfish deeds I felt like Gilbert embraced that aspect of the philosophy without realizing the eual importance those cultures place on the balancing notions of reciprocity duty of being social beings in the truest sense often taking it to the other negative extreme The lack of sense of obligation to anyone other than herself made Gilbert seem curiously dead to the contradictions around her She didn t seem perturbed at the abject poverty of the Indian women around her or to uestion if it was just She never wondered how a spiritual person should grapple with the injustice of the world nor did she seem to uestion the rightness of living in the midst of poverty in an artificial environment created to specifically cater to pampered Westerners In Indonesia she finally seems to see beyond herself to the suffering of others but when she does try to help someone it seems impulsive and done almost with carelessness so that the whole thing almost becomes a big messAfter all of this the end of the book just seemed to fall flat as Gilbert tried to wrap things up uickly crowning it all of course with a romance with a doting and exotic lover This book had a lot of potential but ultimately it seemed like a story about one woman s sense of entitlement and her inability to ever uite move beyond that though she does make some valiant efforts to do With the help of a native guru and a surprisingly wise cowboy from Texas she embarked on four uninterrupted months of spiritual exploration In Bali she studied the art of balance between worldly enjoyment and divine transcendence She became the pupil of an elderly medicine man and also fell in love the best way unexpectedly An intensely articulate and moving memoir of self discovery Eat Pray Love is about what can happen when ou claim responsibility for our own contentment and stop trying to live in imitation of society’s ideals It is certain to touch anyone who has ever woken up to the unrelenting need for change.