N motherhood the author writes Fear has become the way American mothers police educate and define themselves It is the ritual with which they commemorate their transition to motherhood It is tightly baked into the historical strata beneath their everyday lives It is built into their very brains But they don t talk about itThe research here is impeccable It is also bolstered with personal stories the author s own and those of others including those of mothers of color who bear an especially heavy load given the cultural and institutional forces stacked against them Some of these stories are terrifying one brand new mother was institutionalized after circling the wrong answer about her mental state on a uestionnaire another s obstetrician suggested she end her pregnancy on learning she was a single mom There s also a lot of interesting history including a section on midwives in general and in African American culture in particular and how their subordination to the medicalization of childbirth did women few favorsHow do we deal with this The norm in childbirth used to include death Menkedick writes That norm was met with interventions protocols development time energy We must establish norms Menkedick writes That norm was met with interventions protocols development time energy We must establish norms treatment and research and support and intervention to counter the current norm of fearMy own postpartum issues mostly resolved when I finally started to get enough sleep after my husband and I hired a night nanny to come in twice a week and handle the twins so we could truly rest But we were lucky we had the money to pay for that out of pocket and that we really only needed her for about three months Not every family has that luxury If we truly value mothers and motherhood that kind of help along with counseling doulas and groups of mothers who can support one another should be the norm and it should be part of the medical protocol and insured services available to new mothersI
recommend this book to anyone who has ever judged an anxious mom or this book to anyone who has ever judged an anxious mom or one herself That s probablyeverybody reading this I ve had the opportunity to read an early version of this incredible book it is groundbreaking The author is looking at something people are only just becoming aware of the full range of perinatal mood and anxiety disorders and the dangerous misunderstanding of the ubiuitous PPD diagnosis The author interviews women who were misdiagnosed horribly mistreated and hospitalized erroneously The book is riveting and powerfully written I would follow Sarah Menkedick s voice anywhere I think she has done something very This was fascinating but a bit uneven There are parts that are just basic post partum issues which I found to be fairly well covered areas The parts that were most fascinating is when she tries to analyze motherhood anxiety as a way of dealing with a changing world I think this area is under explored and I d like research here I mean with the vaccine wars covid homeschooling environmental threats etc that the way we mother has become a political phenomenon. Is becoming the norm for so many Woven into the stories of women’s lives Menkedick examines factors like the changing structure of the maternal brain the ethically problematic ways risk is construed during pregnancy and the marginalization of motherhood as an identity asking how motherhood came to be an experience so dominated by anxiety and how mothers might reclaim it Writing with profound empathy visceral honesty and deep understanding Menkedick makes clear how critically we need to expand our awareness compassion and care for women's lives. ,
Tely necessary this book is Reading this book has been so thoroughly illuminating to my own experience giving birth twice in the United States within the past six ears and so many times I felt like a weight being lifted off me as the details validated so many of my experiences The writer puts all the research and facts out there in an objective manner through clear and descriptive writing which only makes the information so much powerful She is brilliantly able to weave hundreds of Kojiki years of history into the present day times so precisely pointing out how we got to the place we are now and it just breaks through all the noise of amateur writing on the topic of motherhood The personal stories had me shedding plenty of tears again buried over the past sixears on my journey as a mother This book is without a doubt helping me redefine and examine my identity as a mother in the most therapeutic manner And it is inspiring me to determine how to empower myself and all the moms with whom I wouldn t be able to survive Very useful book about the paralyzingly fear that is common after birth Good perspective about biology and evolution Removed a star for the obvious bias against birth interventions beca This amazing book did than anything I ve ever read on motherhood to explain why I ve often felt so overwhelmed from day one as a mother despite the facts that 1 I always wanted to be a mother and 2 love my now 13 ear old twins It also explained why so many other mothers of my generation act in what seem like crazily overprotective andor irrational waysThe roots of these things are complex We all know for example that maternal hormones make profound
Changes To A Motherto a mother body and brain But did ou know that many of those
changes are permanent and that if those changesare permanent And that if those changes combined with a tendency toward anxiety depression andor OCD and the woman in uestion has no access to help or isn t believed when she says she needs it mothers can find themselves with crippling mental health issues long after the ill defined postpartum period endsBut biology is only one area that contributes to the epidemic of anxiety the author describes here Also at play psychology history and culture especially the patriarchal legacy of using motherhood as a pawn to keep women in their place The ideal mother in this world view is instantly fulfilled and in love with her baby If she mourns her old life and self or doesn t feel happy and serene all the time she s deemed inadeuate or selfish at best and crazy at worst Even other women judge her The result for those of us who fall short of that ideal and I d wager that s most of us is some level of fearFear the debilitating and constant and I know it s crazy but can t stop kind of fear fear that walls off the world and imprisons the self in a frantic scramble for control fear that can never be satiated and that mimics care and love and intelligence so precisely it s impossible to recognize as an imposter is the last major taboo of America. Care and precious little time or support as they attempt to distinguish normal worry from debilitating anxiety This crippling state of madness though sometimes temporary is commonly left untreated and perhaps even dangerously treated as a taboo in our culture Drawing on extensive research countless interviews and the raw particulars of her own experience with anxiety writer and mother Sarah Menkedick gives us a comprehensive examination of the biology psychology history and societal conditions surrounding the crushing and life limiting fear that. Outstanding work of journalism and creative non fiction Such insight into motherhood expectations healthcare worry cultural narratives about mothering and anxiety that doesn t perfectly fit into the right checkboxes for PPD and therefore
Goes Undiagnosed Loved Theundiagnosed Loved the profiles of real women a diverse cast and their experiences Although I did not suffer from PPA or PPD I could really relate to a lot of what is in this book It is essential reading for our times I was excited to read this book after seeing a virtual author event with Sarah Menkedick hosted by Magic City Books in Tulsa She writes openly and with the backing of ears of solid research to pull back the curtain that has long enshrouded motherhood in the US The content is heavy and definitely hit home for me personally It also holds encouragement for mothers who have been impacted by postpartum anxiety andor depression without any context or support for their
EXPERIENCE IT S EYE OPENING AND POWERFUL I FULLYIt s eye opening and powerful I fully it to anyone This book does a great job of pointing out difficulties in the expectations of motherhood today In an effort to avoid all risks with our children are we placing too many rules on parents and diminishing the joy of the experience This book gives many examples of this pointing out the anxiety that results and the loss of a carefree self It helped me to understand why I still fall into feeling the need to micromanage my children s lives even though they are in their 20s and 30s This is a must read that will help parents avoid losing themselves during parenthood I was lucky to read an early copy of Sarah Menkedick s Ordinary Insanity Fear and the Silent Crisis of Motherhood in America In turn a lyrical memoir researched reportage and feminist uery into the anxiety of contemporary motherhood Menkedick s book explores the different ways fear is eroding maternal health in America By using her own experiences and those of other moms she s able to highlight diverse topics like the difference in maternity care for people of color reproductive rights and reform movements the legacy of female hysteria and Overall Menkedick writes with the voice of an expert and an empath making her reader feel both understood and empowered Lots of interesting thoughts and information a many things are beautifully expressed although I found the book a bit uneven Some parts seemed to have only the loosest connection to the topic there wasn t much practical advice and as someone who didn t experience postpartum mental issues I wasn t a fan of her argument that they are because ou care and they make ou a caring person I also got tired of the crunchiness persistent distrust of the medical establishment glorification of home birth a lengthy discussion of the author weeping while burying her placenta at the foot of a tree in a special family ceremony etc I still learned a lot so I consider it a worthwhile read Within the first two chapters I couldn t stop exclaiming out loud how despera. A groundbreaking exposé and diagnosis of the silent epidemic of fear afflicting mothers and a candid feminist deep dive into the culture science history and psychology of contemporary motherhood Fear among new mothers is a growing but largely unrecognized crisis In the months before and after birth countless women suffer from overwhelming feelings of fear grief or obsession that do not fall neatly within the outmoded category of postpartum depression These women are left isolated and captive fending for themselves with scarce resources for their. .