[PDF] Honey I Wrecked the Kids When Yelling Screaming Threats Bribes Time outs Sticker Charts and Removing Privileges All Don't Work BY Alyson Schafer


Uncommon Leadership: How to Build Competitive Advantage by Thinking Differently eBut difficult toxecute If you have one child and infinite amounts of time it would be perfect But after a day and a half of trying to implement these techniues I m xhausted I m constantly trying to come up with choices and constantly trying to remember all the stupid phrases I m supposed to use to protect my fragile snowflakes gos It really works when you phrases I m supposed to use to protect my fragile snowflakes Multichannel Marketing Ecosystems egos It really works when you the time andmotional nergy but most of us don t Edit I wrote this in a fit of frustration in trying to make these techniues work Now that I ve had some time to think about it I realize that the issue is bigger than trying to get kids to behave The problem is that with all these self help books marriage and family help books and "Even Many Spiritual Help Books They Focus "many spiritual help books they focus trying harder The author in this books attempts to differentiate her parenting style from other styles as something new It isn t it is the same old thing that very parent Angels Whiskey everywhere is attempting over and over And where this book is successful is that it gives concretexamples and warnings of possible pitfalls And these do work when you are not overly tired or overly stressed It takes a lot of mental Ritual Alliances of the Putian Plain: Volume Two: A Survey of Village Temples and Ritual Activities energy to accomplish what she lays outRemarkably as I was reading thisverything she suggests is xactly what I had done for a long time I actually gave it up because I found myself frustrated Asking for things instead of telling negotiating for better solutions tc We want to parent like that we want our kids to feel a part of things That is why these books appeal They appeal to our I haven t read a lot of parenting books but the ones I ve read were only meh until this book This is the first one where Wish You Were Here: An Essential Guide to Your Favorite Music Scenes—from Punk to Indie and Everything in Between everything I have beenxperiencing with my daughter is what the author is talking about in the book And in a really concise to the point way The other books talk about understanding your child to showing the right kind of love I know all that I want to know how to handle these specific behaviors that are causing grief in my family The author does this in a great way A lot of it is common sense but it was put in to a way that I was thinking There were many things that I am looking forward to implementing and I will now need to go back and reread the specific parts I wasn t keen on the family meeting chapter but it may be something I will think about doing in the future Pretty asy read for a parenting book not as dry as some I found some very helpful insights and suggestions here but taken all together it felt a bit overwhelming Ah parenting books I think these are hard to rate and review Mostly parenting books I think these are hard to rate and review Mostly as with verything in parenting you have to find what works for your family That being said I liked this book Alyson Schafer lays out her democratic parenting style in which parents release tasks and freedoms to their children with the 5 Nights: Sinful Delights Boxed Set expectation that children will handle them with responsibility As soon as children do not manage their lives with responsibility parents step in and help Families arencouraged to use family meetings to create limits rules and routines that work for them The idea behind all this being that by including your children in family decisions and limit setting they will have buy in and be likely to follow the rules and respect the boundaries Ms Schafer identifies four different types of behaviors that children The Seventh Witch engage in attention seeking power struggles revenge and avoidance and helps you identify them and then gives you strategies for dealing with them both in the short and long term This type of parenting works really well with my own values and personality I am comfortable with autonomy in my household than some people may be That is something you would have to decide for yourself but if you do agree or find yourself agreeing with the basic ideas here I would highly recommend the book I think the other important point to make is you can take ideas from the book that work for youyour family and use them and discard the rest I would guess that it works better as a whole but not necessarilyspecially if other aspects of your parenting work really well I think that is the approach I will be taking I never felt that Ms Schafer advocated letting children make all the rules and decisions in a family she actually says this will create power struggles of a certain kind but I can see how someone may read it that way and if implemented incorrectly it could And the Miss Ran Away with the Rake easily turn into that You may also find this book lacking in strategies for dealing with specific behaviors it s of an over arching method book If you like her parenting style I would refer you to her next book Ain t Misbehavin which does deal with specific problems. Ler TV host and psychotherapist Alyson Schafer again comes to the rescue of desperate parentsverywhe. Honey I Wrecked the Kids When Yelling Screaming Threats Bribes Time outs Sticker Charts and Removing Privileges All Don't WorkI don t agree completely with the author s philosophy I think she overestimates how rational children often are with some of her suggestions but overall still a good read Not all new information but lots of practical ideas useful Trickle Down Tyranny: Crushing Obama's Dream of the Socialist States of America even if other discipline methods are working ok Really good parenting book Usually in those types of books there is lots and lots of words before you get to the actually useful information that is around a chapter long but here I was pleasantly surprised from start tillnd Lots of useful The Pocket Wife examples suggestions andxplanations that actually make sense I ve intentionally prolonged the time for reading it so I have the opportunity to test a little from The Color of Our Sky each section and I was honestly amazed how willingly my children responded Obviously I haven t tried it all and there were plenty of times when I was not able to stop my usual reaction but it is totally worth theffort to try I love the idea of rising cooperative instead of obedient children I love the concept of giving responsibilities and ncouragement instead of punishments and rewards Definitely recommend it In Honey I Wrecked the Kids Alyson Schafer argues for raising cooperative children rather than obedient ones by shifting from a punishment and reward model of parenting to a democratic model that is brimming with respect She xplains that a child who doesn t feel connected capable counted and courageous will feel discouragement and misbehavior is always the result of feeling discouraged In other words Schafer urges parents to see that misbehavior comes from an unmet need and to focus on meeting that need rather than dominating or manipulating children into compliance Schafer s advice for how to ncourage a discouraged child differs based on the situation She describes four separate dances attention "power revenge and avoidance and describes how ach stage is an scalation "revenge and avoidance and describes how ach stage is an scalation the last g a child seeking undue attention if not properly addressed will scalate into one with whom a parent struggles for powerSchafer offers up very specific tips and suggestions for implementing this touchy feely parenting approach The only problem is that her ntire playbook depends upon a parent firing on all cylinders When I m rested and have reviewed my notes I can make many of her suggestions work to great All Roads Lead Home effect Unfortunately I often haven t had time to sleep or reread her strategies When it comes toliciting behavioral improvement a simpler approach like those in The Happiest Toddler on the Block and Say What You See affects greater change Schafer s writing though often trying uite hard to be accessible simply doesn t flow asily though I noted something interesting on ach page that made it worth reading the whole process felt a bit like a slogI nonetheless recommend reading Honey I Wrecked the Kids and keeping it on the shelf for two reasons 1 someday we will have the wherewithal to recall and calmly implement these xcellent strategies and 2 random tricks will stick with you ven if making the The Mephisto Threat (Paul Tallis entire system work feels like a stretch at the momentg I asily incorporated the whenthen statement Here are a few uotes that demonstrate Schafer s style The key message here is to be in an active caring respectful relationship with someone who gets you accepts you and revels in the marvel that is you A child seeking undue attention will seek out any behavior that gets their parents to stop what they re doing and pay attention to them Some kids will do this by

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silly they will jump in some crazy dance Some children decide to take on a persona as in I am not Marcie I am a cat Perhaps your kids feign helpless in order to have you care for them Other children will want you to feel worried so they will bang their heads or make themselves fearful Attention seeking kids will also discover ways to be a general nuisance and pest They might whine spill or blow bubbles in their milk They might complain of feeling sick in non specific ways or be dramatic when they get a small scratch They may try to impress you with feats at the park Perhaps they talk too uietly or too uickly yammering in a non stop streak so fast you can hardly catch what they are saying 1 Do not give undue attention when your child is demanding it from you 2 Give your child attention in the form of real connection 3 Avoid the traps that parents typically fall into stonewalling random reinforcement and others The parenting tools you will learn are 1 The delicate art of ignoring 2 All action no talk 3 Distraction 4 Redirection 5 Natural conseuences 6 Logical conseuences 7 Training for independenceAnd the tools for the longer term solution More life saving parenting advice from the bestselling author of Breaking the Good Mom Myth Bringing

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Be present and leave space for independent 2 Catch m being good 3 Build the relationship connection in the deep and rich way child seeks Of course there are connection in the deep and rich way the child seeks Of course there are few situations when using natural conseuences is not advisable 1 When the conseuence is too severe 2 When the conseuence is too far in the future 3 When too many others are impacted To nsure that a logical conseuence isn t punitive the conseuence must meet two criteria It must be related to the "Behavior Hence The Name Logical "hence the name logical it must be revealed to the child in advance DROP THE ROPE MODEL FOR GETTING OUT OF POWER STRUGGLES D Determine you are in a power struggle R Re assess the situation objectively O Offer an olive branch P Plow on positively 1 If you don t have something nice to say say nothing at all 2 Ask instead of telling 3 Acknowledge that you can t force and as for a favor instead 4 Describe what you see 5 Say it in a word 6 Lighten up If you re power struggling you re holding on to choice options that your children are ready to make for themselves A whenthen statement both Just Cause empowers the child and states the routine as boss LOGICAL CONSEUENCES are NOT a good tool for power struggles They always come off wrong It s tooasy to look powerful when nacting a logical conseuence and besides there are better tools When the child s goal is revenge our parenting job is to help the hurting child heal You are only getting in the way of your own goal when you punish The difficulty is that they often behave in ways that make it harder to want to act in loving and kind ways toward them Fighting is co created and co operative behavior FIVE WAYS TO RESPOND TO SIBLING CONFLICT AND PREVENT HURT 1 Ignore the Fighting 2 Put Them in the Same Boat 3 Put It on the Agenda 4 The Two Arm Techniue 5 Bugs and Wishes The Two Arm Techniue Gently holding one child in ach arm so they are facing ach other Mom clearly centered and not siding with one or the other Mom can say Dina do you need to speak up Do you need to say something to your sister She is a very good listener Mom has not only mpowered Dina to speak but she has also let Carla know she is not in the bad books and so she has no reason to be defensive Embrace mistakes as opportunities to learn and you ncourage growth and persistence that will lead to mastery For many of us who were raised on praise we think it s the best thing to give to a child since we yearned for it ourselves We re projecting and regurgitating the tapes in our head Encouragement mphasizes the process rather than the final product so that all ages all abilities and all ualities are valued Giving your best is what is important and honored Being the best is not Phrases that Demonstrate Acceptance I like the way you handled that You did a great job tackling that problem I m glad you njoy learning I am glad you are pleased with it Since you are not satisfied what do you think you can do so that you will be pleased with it It looks as if you njoyed that How do you feel about it Phrases that Show Confidence Knowing you I m sure you ll do fine You ll make it I have confidence in your judgment That s a rough one but I am sure you ll work it out While people do not have to attend family meetings they do have to live by the decisions made by those who did participate Family meeting agenda 1 Appreciationsencouragement 2 Follow up old business 3 New business 4 Planningschedulingsyncing calendars 5 Distribute allowances 6 Weekly chore sign up 7 Closingfun I picked up this book despite it s cutesy title which had me xpecting a different type of book Instead I was pleasantly surprised an impressed with what the book provides The language while light was much less dumbed down than some other parenting books I ve seen and the book is concise without This seems to be the perfect middle ground between mainstreamreality parenting and idealised tribalattachment I say attachment because within that philosophy is the radical idea that children are people too deserving of respect yet how to we parent within that understanding and not be overrun by tyrannical children This book shows how to do that fairly and without sacrificing mainstream lifestyles nor running into the jungle and ditching mainstream altogether I loved it it was xactly what I needed as my first child is placid and asy but my second my son was a huge challenge for me I found I needed something concrete than the attachment philosophy was giving me This book guided me to remain gentle and open yet not feel I was losing control Highly recommended Must read for parents This book helps reduce the stresses of parenting Some good tips. He same perceptive and actionable advice that made Breaking the Good Mom Myth an international bestsel.


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