E–pub READ [Escaping the Endless Adolescence] Author Claudia Worrell Allen
Blood Magic Divided Realms yIfou are tired of hearing about how teenagers are naturally rude defiant moody and difficult and all Hooking Him you can do is just wait till they grow up read this The authors take a positive but not completely unrealistic approach The book got a little slow repetitive at times as self help books often do but that might be in part because I was already on board with a lot of the suggestions before I read the book I also would have appreciated specific examples and suggestions becauseou can just never have too many of those in a parenting book The thing I liked most about this book is that it doesn t cast teenagers in the role of helpless victim Instead it views their energy motivation by rewards and underestimating of risks as uniue tools that help them move into the adult world if they are given the right growth opportunitiesA lot of the advice mirrors the advice I got from a mom who has raised several successful teenagers of her own Let them practice making real decisions in small situations so they aren t overwhelmed when the big decisions come along It also suggest helping them engage in the adult world so that they can make meaningful contributions and providing scaffolding so that they can successfully do tasks themselves instead of doing things for them The main premise of this book is that adolescence is essentially Lord of the Flies Thus to become adults adolescents need to be socialized by adults and not by other adolescents The author mainly recommends treating adolescents like adults and exposing them to adult responsibilities eg chores volunteer work jobs While I agree with this message I don t think that the book really broke any new ground 5 stars if what Training the Trainer you read in here is new toou or Karsh Portfolio you needed to be strongly reminded of how people used to raise children by challenging them with increasing responsibilities trust and inclusion to the adult world 4 stars ifou already knew this stuff but needed to be reassured that some modern researchers believe that it is important tha The gist of this book is that adolescence has increased in time from a few ears to decades Kids no it and they don t like it Along with John Gatto the authors posit with research backing them up that meaningful work can turn around even the most difficult teenEven good kids can fall in. Do ou sometimes wonder how our teen kids can fall in.
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High School Junior Seemschool junior seem to the challenges that lie ahead Does our academically successful nineteen The Destruction of Jerusalem An Absolute and Irresistible Proof of the Divine Origin of Christianity year old still expectou to “just take care of” even the most basic life tasksWelcome to the stunted world of the Endless Adolescence Recent studies show that today’s teenagers are anxious and stressed and less independent and motivated to grow up than ever before Twenty five is rapidly becoming the new fifteen for a generation suffering from a debilitating “failure to launch” Now two preeminent clinical psychologists tell us why and chart a groundbreaking escape route for teens and parentsDrawing on their extensive research an.
Summary ☆ E-book, or Kindle E-pub ✓ Claudia Worrell AllenTo the depression that accompanies the #endless adolescence so changing parenting startegy can helpSome important tips for parenting adolescents include the following #adolescence so changing parenting startegy can helpSome important tips for parenting adolescents include the following a kid can do a task have the kid do the task If the kid can t teach the kid Include teens in adult activities Support teens as they seek to grow up Build relationships with teens and help them build relationships with other adults Keep the teens challenged Be truthful with teensThis book is good and anyone with kids should read it I ve read a number of psychology books that struggle to find connections between their lab findings and real life or instead make sweeping sensational claims that are nowhere near supported by actual science This book has neither of those problems It s the perfect blend of well founded science practicality and application The writing is very accessible the case studies useful and memorable and the chapters address the modern pitfalls of how our society treats adolescence as well as how to fix things on a societal and individual level An excellent enlightening study which
offers solutions to common teenage issues by focusing on how tosolutions to common teenage issues by focusing on how to out the emerging adult In AdolescentsSome Of The adolescentsSome of the ideas it explains The new phenomenon of the uarter life crisis life is boring teens are waiting for something to jump out and reveal their life s purpose Teens often indulge in extreme behaviour because they have nothing else worthwhile to do which leads to a downward spiral Some of the cases described demonstrate uite disturbing behaviour and although it it is described professionally it is not appropriate for Three Cups of Tea younger readers References other excellent psychologists like Victor Frankyl Considers whether age is really the problem for things like dangerous driving or whether it is simply the danger of being a beginner at whatever age Youth is not the problem the fact of being a beginner is so delaying the age of driving doesn t help because in denying them the riskou also deny them the responsibility and independence they need to learn at this age How it helps older teens to need to look after ounger siblings or babysit a part of adult responsibility they can train for Helps them be responsible people and to get their act together in other areas as well study day to day living even D practice Joseph Allen and Claudia Worrell Allen show that most teen problems are not hardwired into teens’ brains and hormones but grow instead out of a “Nurture Paradox” in which our efforts to support our teens by shielding them from the growth spurring rigors and rewards of the adult world have backfired badly With compelling examples and practical and profound suggestions the authors outline a novel approach for producing dramatic leaps forward in teen maturity including• Turn Consumers into Contributors Help teens experience adult maturity–its bumps and its joys–through the right kind of employment or volunteer activity• Feed Them with Feedback Let teens see and hear how the larger world perceives them Shielding them from crit. Ygiene Voluntary community service and interacting with adults towards a common goal dramatically reduced school and college drop out rates Knowing that what they are doing matters to real adults and being treated like adults in the assignments of tasks makes a huge difference It needn t be a formal program for it to be helpful Premature affluence through some jobs for teens allows them to spend much than they would be able to as adults getting used to having too much money The difference between good uality and bad uality work for teens It is good if it is real work that matters to others How to communicate with teens understanding their language Connecting maintaining independence within relationships How much and in what way parents should and should not criticise teens Lectures given does not eual lectures received Physical activity helps Helping teens to learn from bad experiences and face conseuences like adults as well as the bad experiences of their friends and those shown in movies and books Helping them to unlearn helplessness 5 principles for bringing adolescents into adulthood successfully1 Include them2 Go with the flow tune in to their healthy adulthood seeking motives3 Connect4 Ramp up the challenge5 Give it to them straightwwwGoodReadingGuidecom I wish I had read this book
10 ears ago This book resonated with me in many ways and made me thinkyears ago This book resonated with me in many ways and made me think about interactions I have with my son and my students and how those might be even effective While the book was a bit repetitive in places I thought the anecdotes were powerful and I raised several discussions about the content with different people in my life I am a bit wary about the My Teaching Partner program MENTIONED IN ONE SECTION AS THERE in one section as there not a lot of details offered and the tone there rings a bit false and hollow as if it s a vague commercial which is different from the solid emphasis about content in other parts of the book Otherwise I thought it was worth reading and discussing Escaping the Endless Adolescence offered some interested takes on being a modern teen While I enjoyed the general theme Teens are capable of a lot than society thinks and should be pushed into adulthood with loving help and support the actual supporting arguements were repetitive and relatively limited on detail. Icism–constructive or otherwise–will only leave them uneuipped to deal with it when they get to the “real world”• Provide Adult Connections Even though they’ll deny it teens desperately need to interact with adults including parents on a mature level–and such interaction will help them blossom• Stretch the Teen Envelope Do fewer things for teens that they can do for themselves and give them tasks just beyond their current level of competence and comfort Today’s teens are starved for the lost fundamentals they need to really grow adult connections and the adult rewards of autonomy competence and mastery Restoring these will help them unlearn their adolescent helplessness and grow into adults who can make All God's Children Are Lost but Only a Few Can Play the Piano Finding a Life That Is Truly Your Own you–and themselves–pro.