The Kiss A Memoir E–book/E–pub
The Northmans Bride (Sons of the North fT of place in your ownamily and then someone suddenly turns up who inally makes you Feel Like You Belong Somewhere like you belong somewhere might you be willing to do to hold on to that eeling Most of us wouldn t give the same answer as the 20 year old Harrison but we can at least understand the uestion With The Kiss I The Northman's Bride felt that I was living this period in Harrison s life along with her and I couldn t help but admire her bravery at admitting to this one of the most difficult things a person could ever admit to in their lifetimeAew reviewers here on Goodreads seem to be invested in pointing out that Harrison consented to her relationship with her Blood Trails: The Combat Diary of a Foot Soldier in Vietnam father and therefore is not really a victim Iind this line of thinking beside the point It s true she didn t have to do what she did but that doesn t mean she can t regret it It doesn t mean she can t look back on one of the most confused desperate times in her life and try to Cherry Bomb figure out what happened and why Harrison s own complicity is part of what gives the book its powerIn the end though this is as much a book about Harrison s relationship with her mother as it is about her relationship with herather and the scenes with her mother provide some of the most moving and indelible passages Her Leading the Way father remains something of a shadowigure and that s only appropriate given the darkness he left in his wake Yawn Admittedly she didn t have the best childhood but on the other hand she grew up in a stable household with her grandparents enough money education etc And I don t buy that her ather manipulated her into a relationship She was 20 years old she could make her own choices at that point especially when it involved voluntarily travelling long distances to meet him Not that I was looking or details yuck but I also don t buy that she doesn t remember any of the times that she had sex with himI didn t ind this memoir disturbing or harrowing in the least just pointless This book was difficult to read The subject of incest
Is Torturous But Harrison torturous but Harrison writing was beautiful exuisitely distinctive Some critics said she was a ully grown adult when The Affair Began She Was affair began She was and had an eating disorder that diminished her breasts and stopped her period She had not seen her When Red Cried Wolf father since she was ten and even then it was brief She was a child Having had noather daughter relationship with him she had to be even childlike in his presence Though she was not technically a child she was his childHer ather asserted that their relationship was different unlike that of any other ather and daughter It was indeed different because he was monstrous My heart broke again and again The World in the Curl: An Unconventional History of Surfing for Kathryn Harrison as I read this book Part of me worries that to this day she might not realize how innocent she was Despite the tragedy of her story with it Harrison gave us a beautiful gift It has been an especially timely giftor me as I read it Her real transformation came at the death of her grandfather She writes The service takes place just after Hanukkah and the rabbi reminds us of lighting candles He asks that we cherish the memory of my grandfather who died during the Song of the Forest feast of lights thator him we go orth as brightly as possible and make our lives those of illumination not of darkness I am currently in mourning or my mother and A Constellation of Vital Phenomena father As I moveorward I will remember her words and make my own life a life of illumination not of darkness Thank you Kathryn. Er draws my ace toward his own He touches his lips to mine I stiffen I am rightened by the kiss I know it wrong and its wrongness is what lets me know too that it is a secre. Hat brief love she has known because she has been so unwilling Sextasy: Master the Timeless Techniques of Tantra, Tao, and the Kama Sutra to Take Lovemaking to New Heights for so long to love me just a little The other object of my anger is myself AT HER MOTHER I don t give alying Still Life with Chickens fuck if her mother was an abusive crack whore which she wasn t The affair between Kathryn and Daddy Dearest started when she was 20 years old her mother did not instigate their affair inact her mother suspects something is going on between her daughter and ex husband so she takes Kathryn to speak with a psychiatrist Oops one She gets on between her daughter and ex husband so she takes Kathryn to speak with a psychiatrist Oops one She gets the point without preamble I think they re having sex she says The doctor turns to me his eyebrows raised and I lie as I have never lied before or since I m a bad liar generally but on this afternoon wearing what I m wearing I am brilliant It just looks bad I tell him I know why she s worriedBut it s just that I alter See I never knew my atherI m going through a stage like all little girls just later than most I pause at exactly the right moments My performance is so good that I m Paradox Bound frightened Is my personality so unformed that putting on a dress is enough to change it Or is this shameless sexual purple clad girl someone I can t imagine as ariend a part of me She s right I say nodding I am in love with him but it I m not I d never I wouldn t do that The doctor looks at me sitting before him in my vulgar dress and he believes me I know it Does this sound like a 20 something victim to you I ound the memoir
a whole to be rather distorted I m still uncertain if Kathryn lost her virginity she was 17 to a dildo or to her ather Mrs Harrison s recollection of events are in no particular order and we are arely given dates so I had no idea how old Kathryn was when incidents took place I do have a STFU, Parents: The Jaw-Dropping, Self-Indulgent, and Occasionally Rage-Inducing World of Parent Overshare few opinions but Ieel like I m teetering the line towards assholism so I m going to stop while I m still considered a respectful reviewer I hope Special thanks to Carla Ashlee and Lucy or listening to me talk shit vent via phone text
as a whole to be rather distorted I m still uncertain if Kathryn lost her virginity
And Personal Message Hey I Never Said personal message Hey I never said was an angel MWAH Kathryn Harrison was a pretty big deal in the 1990s At the time she d written three literary novels Of these three one was about a sexual relationship between a ather and his grown biological daughter Another was about a woman whose Syncopated: An Anthology of Nonfiction Picto-Essays father aamous photographer had taken inappropriate photos of his daughter as a child and then put them on display Are All Guys Assholes?: More Than 1,000 Guys in 10 Cities Reveal Why They're Not, Why They Sometimes Act Like They Are, and How Understanding Their ... Will Solve Your Guy Drama Once and For All for everyone to see With herourth book The Kiss Kathryn Harrison What a Lass Wants finally wrote what she d apparently been trying to write all along a memoir about her own sexual relationship with her till then estranged biologicalather which occurred when she was 20 and he was around 40I had read Harrison s second novel Exposure in the early 1990s and didn t think much of it at the time although in retrospect I may just not have been sophisticated enough to appreciate it I bought The Kiss because of all the understandable attention it got when it was published but I left it on the shelf Conquering Your Quarterlife Crisis: Advice from Twentysomethings Who Have Been There and Survived for years because honestly who wants to read about such thingsI don t know what drew me to this now butrankly I started this book expecting to Mexican Hooker feel nothing but my own sense of superiority No matter how bad my life gets at least I will never do something this bad this crazy And of course that s still true But this brief book with its beautiful appropriately overwrought prose made me understand why Kathryn Harrison s life took this turn If you ve alwayselt ou. Ber who Not my mother I'm young enough that I take the words to mean he has magical properties and that he is good better than other people With his hand under my chin my ath. .
Update This book was brought to my attention this morning Have others read it This is a book I d re read again today I always wondered why Have others read it This is a book I d re read again today I always wondered why never saw great novels rom this author The way she wrote this book I was hanging onto every word This is an older book I still remember it clearly I still own it It s one
Of Those Books That You Can T Put Down Yet those books that you can t put down yet you are inished you It s one of those books that you can t put down yet when you are inished you not sure what the hell you should tell others Not the type of book I like to rate It s very well written extremely engaging I also think it s a test to the reader to see if their own judgments of the content will get in the way of really just hearing the story the author has to tell Thought Provoking to say the least NO RATING Hmm where do I begin Believe it or not I AM a cautious reviewer I do not wish to offend dismiss nor ignore Mrs Harrison or any authors Suspicion at Seven: A Lois Meade Mystery feelingsor that matter We are all human beings and words can be universally hurtful stepping down rom my soap box With that being said I am going to try and state my opinions the best way I can without channeling my inner assholeHere goes While I commend Mrs Harrison s bravery in sharing such a difficult time in her life her memoir left me confused and struggling to characterize her as a victim Why the uncertainty Great uestion As it just so happens I highlighted the passages that puzzled meExhibit A In years to come I won t be able to remember even one instance of our lying together I ll have a composite generic memory I ll know that he was always on top and that I always lay still as still as if I had in truth allen The Day Fidel Died from a great height I ll remember such details as the color of the carpet in a particular motel room or the kind of tree outside the window That he always wore his socks and that I wore whatever I could I ll remember every tiny thing about him I will be able to close my eyes and see the pattern of hair that grew on the backs of his hands the mole on his cheek the lines each one of them at the corners of his eyes This sounds like photographic memory rather than generic Exhibit BBut I won t be able to remember what itelt like won t or can t No matter how hard I try pushing myself to inhabit my past I ll recoil rom what will always seem impossible Asleep There s the cottony somnolence of my days There s the little trick of selective self anesthesia that leaves me awake to certain things and dead to others There are drugs and alcohol and there is ood too much or too little with which to bludgeon the senses Over time I make use of each of these and perhaps others of which I am still not aware Sleep in response to unbearable desire I have learned this rom my mother Now I m no expert on the human psyche nor have I suffered rom selective self anesthesia but I ve been in denial once twice okay a Gulp!: The Seven-Day Crash Course to Master Fear and Break Through Any Challenge few times and her admission mirrors my thoughts when I refuse to believe the truth Exhibit C I mrightened I want to avoid contemplating the enormity of what we re doing an act that defines me that explains who I am because in it is all the hurt and anger and hunger of my past and in it too is the The Outlaw and the Upstart King future It s anger thatrightens me most I sleep to escape my rage So those eelings she can remember in vivid detail but the eelings that accompany penetration have vanished completely And the peace de resistance sleep to escape my rag Not at him but at my mother To avoid owning a Standing By: The Making of an American Military Family in a Time of War fury so destructive that I would takerom her We meet at airports We meet in cities where we've never been before We meet where no one will recognize us A man of God is how someone described my ather to me I don 't remem.